Do you hold the common belief that hard work is more valuable than rest? Pam reflects on her past relationship to “hard work” and shares new beliefs around fulfillment, purpose, and presence.

Stefani gives you the year in review and what we crushed, what we learned and where we are headed. Stefani talks about her 2022 takeaways, her goals and the plan in 2023. Trying new things or making different choices can often feel messy... How EXCITING! Thank you for being a member of the Messy Family, we are honored to share with you.

Have you ever listened to what was being said without considering the who and the why? Pam shares wisdom gained about the importance of holistic listening from a place of patience, curiosity, and care.

Stefani sits down with her best friend Bre Walton, to talk about the evolution of their friendship. We talk about the power of communication and having hard conversations with your chosen family of friends. Distance, marriage, babies, different stages of life, things we only tell each other are only a few of the gems you are sure to hear. She's the golden to my girl, and I'm happy for you to hear how we do life together!

Feelings of discomfort often coexist with conflict, but does that mean there has to be resolution? Pam reveals why living in a society hooked on “conflict-resolution” does little to spark curiosity, facilitate personal growth, or support self-reflection.

Cassidy Lichtman joins Stefani for an honest talk about how to deal with people who tell you who you are. Cassidy is a Francis Parker Lancer State Champion, Stanford Womans' volleyball All-American, member of the National Womans team and Professional Volleyball player. She has spent her entire career honoring her love for the game and pushing herself to be the best she can be on and off the court. One of Adweek's Most Powerful Women in sports talks with us about how important it is to know yourself and to never, ever let anyone put you in a box of "people like you". Because the truth is there is NO ONE LIKE YOU!

Do you confuse belonging with fitting in? Pam urges us to broaden our perspective of “belonging” with the loving reminder that “you belong wherever you’re willing to risk being seen”.

Stefani is joined by one of her best friends Tiffany Keller Mackovic for an honest evaluation of postpartum depression (PPD) and the evolution of her early journey into motherhood.  Tiffany talks about her postpartum depression diagnosis and how this changed her landscape of life.  We talk about being a friend to someone during their darkest days and the responsibilities we have to each other as fellow Mothers in caring for each other.  

Candles and baths can be gratifying forms of self care, but what if we thought about it more holistically? Pam provides tools and insights about caring for ourselves mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Do you know the difference between being grounded versus being centered? Pam shares examples of how to identify both and speaks to the indispensable value of feeling and listening to ourselves.

Stefani talks about how she’s entered that “sweet spot” of parenting known as THE TWEENS!!! A little nostalgic walk down Stefani’s tween years as she compares her idea of this age and the actual realities that are going down. Special guest, Skyler Wessel (Stefani’s 12 year old daughter) pops in to speak her mind and give you the juice on how her Mom is handling this whole “parenting thing”.

How often do you truly listen to yourself and others? Pam reminds us that it’s never too late to start listening better, more effectively, and more curiously.

F*#% Cancer! Stefani talks with Nicole Santos about how cancer has changed her life. Nicole walks us thru how they learned her 5 year old son, Carter, had Leukemia. She shares trials that each family member had to battle, how she maintained her own care while having to be strong for her family. The hardship, the uncertainty, the hope, the community and innately knowing that their family will always be BETTER TOGETHER!

Do you have enough self trust to put your trust in others? Pam reveals the importance of self trust as a way to cultivate our sense of accountability, intuition, compassion, and boundary setting.

Join Stefani as she talks to Roxy Jean, an intuitive health and fitness coach. Roxy is an Anti-diet health coach who specializes in helping you overcome self sabotage, so that you can heal your relationship with food and yourself so that you can live in a body you love. Get ready, we are WORKING IT OUT!

When someone you care about is suffering, is your automatic response to try and fix it? Pam speaks to the deep tenderness we can access within ourselves to hold space for suffering.

Stefani welcomes you back to season 2 with an episode about what the hell it means when you ask someone what they do? What it means to embrace yourself at all levels of your success, and to find comfort in the unknown. We missed you! We cannot wait to continue to ask the hard questions, do the work and get MESSY!

Does hearing the word “meditation” immediately invoke visions of crossed legs and closed eyes? Pam speaks about alternative opportunities for meditation in everyday activities and the wisdom we find when we slow down, get still, and listen.

Stefani sits down with Jason Stewart, Varsity Mens Basketball Coach at San Dieguito Academy in Encinitas, CA, and most recently named CIF San Diego Section Coach of the year!  Coach Stewart talks about what a championship program looks like for him and how important community is to his team and program. Coach talks core values, his priorities and the greatest gift he received from this group of young men.

What’s the secret to aging gracefully? Pam speaks to Mary Ann Patterson about the value of curiosity, movement, acceptance, and human connection at any age.